The end of a long-term relationship can be a profoundly challenging experience, and it often leads to feelings of loneliness and isolation for one or both parties involved.
So glad to find you’re writing again. Looks like I have some catching up to do :) There’s a lot to unpack in this one. I found myself thinking about my perspectives on all the points you’ve brought up from blaming a pandemic (when I would believe the breakdown in the marriage was already present only exacerbated by the pandemic) to the changes in attitudes toward monogamy and marriage. I was married once in my thirties and only for two years. I’ve never had children. My independence to work on my degrees and career as well as travel and not have to make compromises has come with its own flavor of loneliness. I’ve woken up in the middle of the night wondering if I made the right choices.I’m professional level at giving CPR to dead situations. I’m slowly making it past the brick wall I’ve kept hitting when it comes to envisioning my life in retirement. What do they say? If we all stood in a circle and threw in all our problems, once we saw everyone else’s we’d be scrambling to get ours back. Grateful for your writing and looking forward to rolling these perspectives around in my head to take another look at what’s true to me.
Thank you so much for your comment Erin, it's lovely to hear from you.
I'm going to remember the phrase "professional level at giving CPR to dead situations" because I believe I have on occasion exhibited this talent.
I think you are spot on about pandemic generally only exacerbating rifts in relationships rather than being the single factor - it probably opened the rifts further.
I’m getting caught up with your essays and they are great topics. I came back to this post because I wanted to share a video with you. I ran across it 6m ago and found it to be extremely enlightening regarding marriage and divorce from a Family Law attorney. There’s coarse language and definitely NSFW- but there are some seriously salient points. If you’re interested:
So glad to find you’re writing again. Looks like I have some catching up to do :) There’s a lot to unpack in this one. I found myself thinking about my perspectives on all the points you’ve brought up from blaming a pandemic (when I would believe the breakdown in the marriage was already present only exacerbated by the pandemic) to the changes in attitudes toward monogamy and marriage. I was married once in my thirties and only for two years. I’ve never had children. My independence to work on my degrees and career as well as travel and not have to make compromises has come with its own flavor of loneliness. I’ve woken up in the middle of the night wondering if I made the right choices.I’m professional level at giving CPR to dead situations. I’m slowly making it past the brick wall I’ve kept hitting when it comes to envisioning my life in retirement. What do they say? If we all stood in a circle and threw in all our problems, once we saw everyone else’s we’d be scrambling to get ours back. Grateful for your writing and looking forward to rolling these perspectives around in my head to take another look at what’s true to me.
Thank you so much for your comment Erin, it's lovely to hear from you.
I'm going to remember the phrase "professional level at giving CPR to dead situations" because I believe I have on occasion exhibited this talent.
I think you are spot on about pandemic generally only exacerbating rifts in relationships rather than being the single factor - it probably opened the rifts further.
I’m getting caught up with your essays and they are great topics. I came back to this post because I wanted to share a video with you. I ran across it 6m ago and found it to be extremely enlightening regarding marriage and divorce from a Family Law attorney. There’s coarse language and definitely NSFW- but there are some seriously salient points. If you’re interested:
https://youtu.be/o5z8-9Op2nM?si=zeTjmt3Thgy4i4-R
Thanks Erin, what an interesting interview.
Thank you David, Another extremely well written story.
Thanks Ian, your feedback is valuable - still practicing!